Break the Worry Habit

You do not need to be a victim of worry. Reduced to its simplest form, what is worry? It is simply an unhealthy and destructive mental habit. You were not born with the worry habit. You acquired it. And because you can change any habit and any acquired attitude, you can cast worry from your mind. Since aggressive, direct action is essential in the elimination process, there is just one proper time to begin an effective attack on worry, and that is now. So let us start breaking your worry habit at once.

A famous psychologist asserts that ‘fear is the most disintegrating enemy of human personality’, and a prominent physician declares that ‘worry is the most subtle and destructive of all human diseases’. Another physician tells us that thousands of people are ill because of ‘dammed-up anxiety’. These sufferers have been unable to expel their anxieties which have turned inward on the personality, causing many forms of ill-health. The destructive quality of worry is indicated by the fact that the word itself is derived from an old Anglo-Saxon word meaning ‘to choke’. If someone were to put his fingers around your throat and press hard, cutting off the flow of vital power, it would be a dramatic demonstration of what you do to yourself by long-held and habitual worry.

But do not be discouraged, for you can overcome your worries. There is a remedy that will bring you sure relief. It can help you break the worry habit. And the first step to take in breaking it is simply to believe you can. Whatever you believe you can do, you can do, with God’s help.

Here, then, is a practical procedure which will help you to eliminate abnormal worry from your experience.

Practice emptying the mind daily. This should be done preferably before retiring at night to avoid the retention by the consciousness of worries while you sleep. During sleep, thoughts tend to sink more deeply into the subconscious. The last five minutes before going to sleep are of extraordinary importance, for in that brief period the mind is most receptive to suggestion. It tends to absorb the last ideas that are entertained in walking conscious.

This process of mind drainage is important in overcoming worry, for fear thoughts, unless drained off, can clog the mind and impede the flow of mental and spiritual power. But such thoughts can be emptied from the mind and will not accumulate if they are eliminated daily. To drain them, utilise a process of creative imagination. Conceive of yourself as actually emptying your mind of all anxiety and fear. Picture all worry thoughts as flowing out as you would let water flow from a basin by removing the stopper. Repeat the following affirmation during this visualisation: ‘With God’s help I am now emptying my mind of all anxiety, all fear, all sense of insecurity.’ Repeat this slowly five times, then add: ‘I believe that my mind is now emptied of all anxiety, all fear, all sense of insecurity.’ Then go to sleep.

The procedure may be further strengthened by imaginatively thinking of yourself as reaching into your mind and one by one removing your worries. Imagination is a source of fear, but imagination may also be the cure of fear. ‘Imagineering’ is the use of mental images to build factual results, and it is an astonishingly effective procedure. Imagination is not simply the use of fancy. The word imagination derives from the idea of imagining. That is to say, you form an image either of fear or of release from fear. What you ‘image’ (imagine) may ultimately become a fact if held mentally with sufficient faith.

Therefore hold an image of yourself as delivered from worry and the drainage process will in time eliminate abnormal fear from your thoughts. However, it is not enough to empty the mind, for the mind will not long remain empty. It must be occupied by something. It cannot continue in a state of vacuum. Therefore, upon emptying the mind, practise refilling it. Fill it with thoughts of faith, hope, courage, expectancy. Say aloud such affirmations as the following: ‘God is now filling my mind with courage, with peace, with calm assurance. God is now guiding me to right decisions.’

Believe in Yourself

                                “We are the results of what we have thought”

                -          Buddha

Once the above quote is understood thoroughly, it will present remarkable results in your life for you will understand that you are the problem and you and ‘Only You’ are the solution.

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! A sense of inferiority and inadequacy interferes with the attainment of your hopes, but self-confidence leads to self-realisation and successful achievement. Because of the importance of this mental attitude, this post will help you believe in yourself and release your inner powers.

It is appalling to realise the number of pathetic people who are hampered and made miserable by the malady popularly called the inferiority complex. But you need not suffer from this trouble. When proper steps are taken, it can be overcome. You can develop creative faith in yourself-faith that is justified.

Lack of self-confidence apparently is one of the great problems besetting people today. In a university a survey was made of six hundred students in psychology course. The students were asked to state their most difficult personal problem. Seventy-five per cent listed lack of confidence. It can safely be assumed that the same large proportion is true of the population generally. Every where you encounter people who are inwardly afraid, who shrink from life, who suffer from a deep sense of inadequacy and insecurity, who doubt their own powers. Deep within themselves they mistrust their ability to meet responsibilities or to grasp opportunities. Always they are beset by the vague and sinister fear that something is not going to be quite right. They do not believe that they have it in them to be what they want to be, and so they try to make themselves content with something less than that of which they are capable. Thousands upon thousands go crawling through life on their hands and knees, defeated and afraid. And in most cases such frustration of power is unnecessary.

The blows of life, the accumulation of difficulties, and the multiplication of problems tend to sap energy and leave you spent and discouraged. In such a condition the true status of your power is often obscured, and a person yields to a discouragement that is not justified by the facts. It is vitally essential to re-appraise your personality assets. When done in an attitude of reasonableness, this evaluation will convince you that you are less defeated than you think you are.

We build up the feeling of insecurity or security by how we think. If in our thoughts we constantly fix attention upon sinister expectations of dire events that might happen, the result will be constantly to feel insecure. And what is even more serious is the tendency to create, by the power of thought, the very condition we fear.

The greatest secret for eliminating the inferiority complex, which is another term for deep and profound self-doubt, is to fill your mind to overflowing with faith. Develop tremendous faith in God and that will give you a humble yet soundly realistic faith in yourself.

However, this is the point where most of us fail to add the true feeling of faith. Let me illustrate it with an example, suppose you visit a restaurant and ordered your favourite dish, now probably until you receive your dish you will pass your time looking around the ambience of the hotel or playing a game on your mobile or anything that you like at that moment, at this point you will never doubt thinking what if my dish is not delivered, or should I order the same dish to another restaurant simultaneously, because you believe that once you placed an order it will be delivered to your table. But when it comes to prayer you forget that once you have placed your order than undoubtedly it will be delivered to you.

All the great leaders in the past have always insisted to have – FAITH!

Relationships

Relationships are your biggest channel to give love, and so you can change your entire life just through the love you give in your relationships. At the same time though, relationships can be your biggest downfall, because they are often your biggest excuse for not giving love

As the law says “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction” so when you give love, compliment, care and appreciations in to your relationships it comes back to you multiplied thousand times. What you give out, you get in return.

Give love to others through kindness, encouragement, support, gratitude, or any good feeling, and it comes back to you and multiplies itself, bringing love to every other area of your life, including your health, money, happiness, and career

Give negative to others, through criticism, anger, impatience, or any bad feeling, and you will receive that negativity back- this is universal truth.

To attract happiness in every area of your life follow this exercise - Make everyone feel special whom you meet in your daily life, make them realize that they have something unique and that’s what make them special in your life, as you do this you will realize that same qualities are coming back to you multiplied.

You van change any relationship right now by looking for the things you love, appreciate, and are grateful for in that person. When you make a deliberate effort to look for the things you love more than you notice negative things, a miracle will take place. All you have to do is harness the force of love by looking for the things you love in the person, and everything will change in the relationship.

The message from Buddha, Jesus, Muhammad and every great being is loud and clear – LOVE!